Reenlistment...

After work tonight, I swung by Ft. Benning to drop dinner off to Robert because he had CQ again...Bummer... But in all honesty I could kiss him; You see, the hubs actually volunteered for another one just so he could have tomorrow off with me...Be still my heart! Isn't he just a peach:p However, getting back on track...Robert asked me a really good question tonight that I thought would be interesting to ask all of my military followers/wives...This might actually be an easy "cut and dried" answer for a lot of you, but for me it was something to think about...Over the course of eating his Shrimp Parmesan Pasta, Robert and I headed into the whole him reenlisting conversation (again) but this time Robert wanted to know my thoughts on it, and if I could decide whether he stay or get out, what would I choose and why...Hmmmm...I hadn't really thought about this much because I know this is his life and he intends to make it a career, so I never question it... But after some hemming and hawing, I came to the conclusion that even though I hate the thought of him deploying again and I'd love to have him home more, the simple truth is...The Army is where it's at for Robert...He is the type of man that is happiest when he feels apart of something, and the military is definitely a big something...I came to this conclusion many months ago when he'd tell me, there were days that he wanted to go back to Iraq and he truly meant it...Oh yes, I got my feelings hurt over this... I understood him to be saying he'd rather be fighting over there then be home with me. However, I now know, that was my hurt and insecurity thinking, and I dug deep to really see what was behind this crazy talk...This is what I found....Robert, like all the men, want that deep sense of manly belonging and purpose and fighting this war has brought that to them in the biggest way...Lets be honest, this war blends perfectly with our men's makeup and feeds them in a way that we (their women/family) will never be able to. But in saying that, we are what drives our men to stand up and fight, ultimately placing them into the breeding grounds where their nature can relate and thrive...So to give you the answer I gave my husband just over an hour ago, No I do not want him to "get out" and yes I do want him to reenlist. My husbands happiness means everything to me and to encourage him into something I know would leave him empty, is wrong. Robert, has come to the same conclusion, I think, but wanted to hear me say the words "Its okay." I feel he also wanted to give me that voice most of us military wives feel we don't have? Ahhhhh, yet another reason I married this man...So thoughtful and I LOVE HIM! What about you ladies? What are your thoughts on the hubs reenlisting/not?


Robert's new endearment for me is "My artichoke heart." And for some reason it just melts my pee pickin little heart:p Goodnight everyone and P.s. Have all of you been running into problems with commenting on my blog? Because twice I have heard from readers who have been and now I'm curious...Let me know!

Edit: I should probably say that this next reenlistment means life for Robert until he retires, so its a big final decision for us!

A Step Towards A Better Me...

Lately I've been feeling overly stimulated by the Internet. I mean, do I honestly NEED a Myspace, Facebook, Blogger blog and 2 Email accounts, on top of already being a member of three forums that I post on, right long with being a subscriber to the Ft. Benning Army Wives Meetup Group (which I do think is necessary;p) WOAH! Now that I type this out, I realize why I am feeling exhausted by it all! As a result, I have been left feeling like it has been hindering me from enjoying more of the life that I have in front of me right now. I spend WAY too much time on these sites and its making me feel....Well OVERLY STIMULATED and guilty about how I'm spending my days...I've been neglecting a lot of the chores here around the house and even my own health because of it. I'd rather be on here then in the kitchen whipping up a balanced breakfast to get me through the hard work day. Its keeping me tense and stressed because I never catch up on my "to do's" while I'm on here...Well, after a long talk with the hubby last night, I made the decision to de-clutter my cyber space life and for a start, I deleted two of these accounts today; Myspace and Facebook..For those of you who were on those accounts, I do apologize but it was necessary to my sanity! I am keeping only 1 Email account (the one on here) my blogger page and the Ft. Benning Army Wives Group, seeing as it gets me away from my computer and out into the living:p It truly was a God send! Well, now that I have this off my chest, I feel better! The plan now is to slow things down and just go back to the simple things in life. i.e, my running, spending time with my hunny, walking my dog and not worrying that I need to reply to an email so she needs to hurry up and do #1&2. Nope, I got Bella to enjoy her and so I am going to enjoy her! I'm going to window shop, just because its relaxing and fun...And use that beautiful pool of ours to soak up the wonderful relaxing sun...Ahhhh...Its been 15 minutes since I deleted those accounts and I'm already feeling some of the stress of keeping it up, going away...

How about y'all? Do you ever get this way, where you have too much and just need to take a break? If so, what did you do about it?

The Here And Now

Hello everyone! Wow, I was blown away by all the comments on my last post:p However, NOT ONE OF YOU denied me being strange:p Thanks a lot chicks:p We're still cool though...lol...I figured I'd take today and blog a bit about my present life, seeing as I haven't been doing much of that! I know a few of you have asked to read more on my current situation, so here goes!

After R and I married back in December, (I) moved to Georgia where the hubs had already been living for the past year and a half. Apparently there are some of you who have been here at one time or are headed this way soon. There's: Megan over in Army, Alaska, Life who lived here before their move, Sarah over at Dance Shoes and Combat Boots who is stationed here for just a minute, pssssst... she is hiding her dog in a carpet bag:p and An American in Italy whom I regret to say her name I do not know, but I have looked, I swear:p Just nice knowing that I'm not alone down here and that there have been others!

Moving on, today is mine and R's three month mark! I never used to be one of those girls that kept track of how many months or weeks you had been dating but for some reason its important to me now...I'm sure y'all (Mrs.) don't judge me:p Some of you have asked about whether or not R is deployed like many of yours are. My answer is no, however he is away from me and has been for six weeks now. He came down on Drill Sgt. orders not long before we were engaged and had to to leave for South Carolina to complete the training four weeks after our wedding. I am fortunate that he gets to drive down most weekends though to visit. In fact he is coming in tonight so I've been racing around the house shining faucets and chasing after the dust bunnies:p I won't be experiencing the the many moves that I hear are so frequent in the military, anytime soon, due to his current orders. So it looks like we'll be here for at least 2.5 years if not longer. They're already talking about extending his contract for another year, boo!

After looking non stop for 1.5 months I finally got a job working as an assistant manager. I have very little higher education underneath me so this was a good find! I had plans of returning to school last fall but then R proposed so it has been put on hold. I will definitely be returning for my degree in early childhood education K-6th though. Gosh, I feel like I'm boring y'all all ready:p I'd share my peanuts to get you through the misery but...

I fill my days with work, going to the gym, swimming when its nice, walking, hating on my cat and of course lots and lots of Internet QT to keep up with family from all over. I have many little idiosyncrasies that is the making of me. I've seen y'all write posts on little random facts about yourselves so maybe I should do the same:p I need to hit the shower and go to the store. There is no food for the poor hubby to eat and when he gets hungry, girl....lol...So I will catch you chica's later! Happy Friday!