March 25, 2009

Stop Shakin The Milkshake!

So I'm really confused here...Is it just because I work in a gaming store where men are over populated, or is it the fact that I live in a military town where men are over populated? Here's my confusion, I have been dealing with being hit on a lot here lately and I don't mean like a few times a week, I mean like three and four times a day! The part that is really making me mad is that I'm married and most of these men are military!!! Isn't military men supposed to be, oh I don't know, honorable? Even though honor is one of the things that they are supposed to be about that doesn't stop them from coming up to me and saying , TO MY FACE "By the way, I'm single..." Or, I really like this one, "that's a beautiful ring by the way. Just checking here, is that a complete wedding set or are you just engaged?" Whats really disturbing is when their walking towards me and I say, "Hi, how are y'all?" and they never look at my face but instead look me up and down and reply with, "How you doin?" in a really suggestive manner. Or when I say "if there's anything I can do for y'all just let me know" and they actually reply back with, "Oh honey, there is plenty you can do for me" RWAR!!!! I mean come on! I'm really stuck here because I don't know how to react to that as I am in my work place and I'm there to be pleasant and helpful...I hate it when they continue to ask me and only me for help when there are three other game advisors just standing by, then continue to look deeply into my eyes as if there trying to feed me some important brain wave message...Double RWAR! Being new in this job, I don't want to rock the boat, but I love being married to my husband and I find it so disrespectful being oogled like this when I know that they know I'm married...I mean I talk about my husband all the time at work...Anyone could look at me and know I'm happily married just from my radiant glow:) I don't hide this stuff from R because I wouldn't want him to hide that kind of attention from me, so when I do tell him I try to make jokes of it....Like every time I have to tell him about the newest episode I'll fallow up with that song from, gosh, whats her face....Well the one that sings "my milkshake brings all the boys to the yard:p" Of course I'm laughing hysterically while shaking my bon bon the whole time because that song is so ridiculous...This last time he fires back with, " WELL STOP SHAKIN THE MILKSHAKE!" Then we both fall on the floor in fits of giggles because, I don't know, it was just funny the way he said it! Anyway, I was just wanting y'all take on that...Do you think its the fact that their military and women just should fall at their feet or the fact that their just men and I'm working in a mans world? Any suggestions on how to handle these remarks would be great! By the way, thank you for all your comments! I'm really starting to feel like I'm apart of the cool peoples crowd and that makes me feel cool:p Night everyone!


  1. Men are stupid. I get hit on on the PHONE at legal aid. what the crap?? Anyway, when men hit on me in a degrading manner, looking me up and down and all that...I usually reply with..."I'm not sure who you're used to talking to, but you're talking to a lady now. And I don't appreciate that." That usually shuts them up fairly quickly. Or I just call them a douchebag. It depends on my mood, really.

  2. I don't really think there is anything to do about it. I learned this from being a cocktail waitress in Atlanta, and then being one of the only "feminine" looking girls working in the apple store. You're going to get "pigs" like that wherever you go. Just don't give them the time of day but be nice about it at the same time haha!

  3. Well, I'm sorry to say it but most of the soldiers I know are dogs. Even some married ones. My theory on why soldiers are this way is: I think they are just caught up in old idea of having a girl in every 'port', and playing those tears and that line "I'm shipping out in the morning!" I think they have just sensationalized that idea. Either way... I think that maybe you'd get hit on irregardless of your proximity to soldiers. Boys will be Boys!
    A little work place flirting never hurt anyone. :) They might just come after some time though... Anywho, when it bugs you just say ha ha, smile, and hold up your hand, and say I'm married. I've done that. They sulk and wonder off. Or if they are married tell them you are happily married and he appears to be as well, and the ARMY frowns upon adultery. (they get extra pissy when there is a lil' implied threat there)...

  4. I hate this! (And I know this is an older post so you may have already solved the problem by now, but I wanted to add my 2 cents.) I used to have to put up with this from both coworkers and vendors when I worked as a receptionist, and one of my proudest days was when I finally told the FedEx guy to please stop calling me sweetie. I don't know that I ever did figure out a good way to deal with it, but I guess I wish I would have stood up for myself sooner.


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